I was always fascinated with the martyr,victim patterns that women in our country often hold.Personally,I never had a boyfriend and I prefer not to have one.I believe my worth is much more to what a man would offer to give me.Its not that I was never in love,just that I have grown up and I am unable to deal with the cave man attitude.Recently a newspaper quoted"let us agree to go beyond billboard exhortations'to love the girl child',an article that dealt with the decline in the child sex ratio from 927 in 2001 to 914 as per every 1,000 males last year,in 2011 that further stigmatises the sexual discrimination in our society.This should come as an alarm to us.The so called modernisation is still,however strenthening the patriarchal prejudices that predominate this country.Our different ways of putting across our policies are insufficient and are unable to go deep into the racist,sexist tendencies of India.I am still naive to talk about politics but what I understand is that there is alot of work to be done here and the cultural factor has to be looked into.Its something that goes deeper than just education.It has to be instilled in the society.I understand that there are acts that criminalise foeticide,or gender determination and there are acts that regulate the right to medical termination of pregnanacy.But my point here is What is beyond this problem?Is it in our history?Is it in our ancestors?Is it still in our blood?I believe women are responsible to answer these questions too.What are you doing to save your mother,daughter,sister or friend?Are you educating them?Even at the basic level?Alot of people work for the benefit of the society but is it really progressing?
I have had a secured childhood.But I have come across women who are unable to stand firm.As a result the bask in the mask of the new age woman but are lost and threatened inside.Threatened of being used,molested and lashed upon by the petty mindset that our society still dwells upon.As a woman it is my duty to respect other women and to bring awareness to those who are not there as yet.I have the privelige to be strong because of my family.I have the privilege to say I am proud of being a woman.I have the privilege to be honest with myself and I want others to be alike.Be it a man or a woman.I want a safe society for all.
We are the generation that has taken over now.The generation of ipads.The generation of equality.But does it really exist in your head?Are you treating people with respect?I believe this respect comes from within.I believe this is what makes a man.
I have nipped many a men in the bud for their indecent ways and peculiar mindset.I want a man who stands strong of being the other half of me.Call me traditional,old fashioned whatever.
Its not arrogance.Its not just pride for myself,but for the people around me.Its confidence.
If today I bring a man home,it affects me,it affects everyone around me.Its not just my life.I believe there are so many depended on me,some way or the other and I want them to look upto me.
For now as the newspaper article read"As for the core content of messeges,a lot can be said,but for now let us agree to go beyond billboard exhortations 'to love the girl child'.And recognize that the girl will grow upto be a woman one day"
I have had a secured childhood.But I have come across women who are unable to stand firm.As a result the bask in the mask of the new age woman but are lost and threatened inside.Threatened of being used,molested and lashed upon by the petty mindset that our society still dwells upon.As a woman it is my duty to respect other women and to bring awareness to those who are not there as yet.I have the privelige to be strong because of my family.I have the privilege to say I am proud of being a woman.I have the privilege to be honest with myself and I want others to be alike.Be it a man or a woman.I want a safe society for all.
We are the generation that has taken over now.The generation of ipads.The generation of equality.But does it really exist in your head?Are you treating people with respect?I believe this respect comes from within.I believe this is what makes a man.
I have nipped many a men in the bud for their indecent ways and peculiar mindset.I want a man who stands strong of being the other half of me.Call me traditional,old fashioned whatever.
Its not arrogance.Its not just pride for myself,but for the people around me.Its confidence.
If today I bring a man home,it affects me,it affects everyone around me.Its not just my life.I believe there are so many depended on me,some way or the other and I want them to look upto me.
For now as the newspaper article read"As for the core content of messeges,a lot can be said,but for now let us agree to go beyond billboard exhortations 'to love the girl child'.And recognize that the girl will grow upto be a woman one day"
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i adore how you've tried to make your point hun, but do not forget out country is not made up by the so called modernist society. It is the psyche and has been the same way ever since, women have been hushed, buried,slashed and numbed into nothingness. It is the fear of being physically weak in some cases that we do not stand up for many of our kind, or the way the creator has made us, to bow down, to be a stream of water of the other sex. Now am not a man-hater or anything, but yes we have been living in a patriarchal society, even the so called super-natural beings follow this. Personally i blame Eve for plucking the apple.
I do have a Question to the others though, If God did create Man and woman equally, why did Eve have to come from Adam's rib and not the other way round? Or Why wasn't she made out of dust from the beginning ?
It might be just me, but God is the first patriarch i would say.
thankyou for your comment Rachika.Well amongst hindus too,women have gone through many trials and tribulations.even though things have changed with times,its our religion that preach it.women still have to go through the agnipariksha in the clutches of the society and man,True.Like in Muslims women are still not allowed to go to religious places of worship or even as the islam states her rights are half to that of a man.She can be divorced by the statement of "talaq" said just three times by the man and has to be remarried and divorced again to be accepted by her first husband.Like in the movie Nikah.if you have seen it.Male and female create a balance in the society neither can exist without another.Looking down upon one would only confirm the narrow and foolish,hypocritical attitude of the other.what I am talking about here is respect.even for your adversary.That has to be understood by people,of any society.Respect also comes from goodness or the sense of morality.or we are simply beasts with the mere masks of decency.i beleive everyone loves their religion.everyone is protective of their wants and ways.But this is religion we are talking about.Its sensitive.
But I am glad you came up with this.I dont believe God is a patriarch.I believe God is partial.He wants an imbalance.Maybe this is to make us aware of the importance of both the masculine and feminine.Maybe its not just God,maybe its also us!!
That is what am saying Pritha, If a female such as me can blame another who is practically non existent how can you find women who learn to respect their existence, you are right though we are animals in more than one way, but there is a certain pedigree amongst us, who stop and stare, listen to what might be right, but if you come to think bout it, is respecting right?
who defines right or wrong?
There is no such thing as respect, I believe one should accept and persevere of what is already there,
A quote a friend of mine says all the time " You should accept what you cannot change, and change what you cannot"
It is not about respect here Pritha, It is how the way people think, how they have been brought up to think feel react engage, etc. and these things are not impossible but it does not happen over time.
From what women were in the society to what they are, I say our sex has journeyed a long way. Hell our own president is a female. There is pride for what is already there, but remorse for what there isn't things like ice take a lot of time to melt.
I believe there is respect.I believe even preserving what you have is the reason that you respect.Morality cannot be defined.its different for different people.But it does exist.The reason why we are different from one another.We are unique.What you are talking about is survival.But even the survival of the fittest comes with respect.The right and wrong.Or amny would just go on a killing spree.but its not possible becaus society has laid down standards.We sometimes revolt against it.Because God has standards.We rebel against the wrong.Now me and you ,we both agree about how woman have come a long way.they have journeyed alot.Even this is morality.We agree.We are on a common ground as women.
I believe I live for respect.If today I am wrong,or i commit a crime,I will be filled with remorse or guilt.Because i am not an animal.I am human.
We all want to be accepted and loved.that is human.that is natural.
Change is diffrent.But its also the struggle,the fight that we put in that puts us ina place.and all the recognition,respect,reputaion,a place in society whatever you call it,,,comes from there.
Thats the thing my dear, the respect, the right, the wrong it is defined but to define a human being by society is not within each others hands.
We are beyond defining.
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